From grade school to grad school and beyond, one critical goal in STEM is to get more women involved. But, once a woman has landed that highly coveted job, how does she navigate a realm dominated primarily by men? How does she handle conflict and feelings of doubt? What are the keys to success?
Three women who have had an extraordinary impact in the field of computing offered their advice on the age-old issue of gender relations. Here’s what they had to say:
Rosalind Wright Picard
Picard is credited with starting the branch of computer science known as “affective computing.” She is founder and director of the Affective Computing Research Group at the MIT Media Lab, and co-founder of the startups Affectiva and Empatica.
First, assume the best in people. In particular, be patient with men who may need help feeling comfortable around you. Most of them want to see you succeed and want to do the right thing, but they often feel uncomfortable and don’t know what they can do to help.
For example, the next time one of them complains they are too busy or stressed, offer, “Hey, you’re probably getting more invitations or responsibilities than you have time for. If you want to bounce some of those invitations my way, I can take them on.”
Christine Myachi
Miyachi is currently a principal systems engineer and architect at Xerox Corporation and holds several patents. In 2018, Myachi participated in the “Women Making the Future” panel discussion at the IEEE Future Directions Technology Time Machine Symposium.
Believe in your abilities and hold your head high. Don’t let anyone tell you you do not have ability. If you are still a student, find an open-source project you can contribute to — real-world projects are often more nuanced and complex than classwork. Companies will be impressed with your contribution. This is hard to do when you also have classwork, so find a project you are passionate about. One last tip: Try not to take things personally as the difficulty is often not about you.
Susan Landau
Landau is noted for her testimony before Congress in the Apple vs. FBI case resulting from the 2015 San Bernardino terrorist attack. Landau is Bridge Professor of Cybersecurity and Policy at Tufts University. She frequently appears on NPR.
First, acknowledge yourself when you run into an unfair situation. Sometimes you need friends and colleagues to help you understand what happened (these can be friends of both genders.) Sometimes you can confront the unfair situation, sometimes not. In the latter case, the cost may be too high to be worth it. But once you’ve done the acknowledgment — and the response if you have one — move on.
Remember why you do what you do and focus on that. It’s not always easy to get past an unfair situation, but, if you get stuck in anger and pain, they’ve won. If you move on and succeed, you’ve won.
